Let me start this post with a beautiful quote by Aristotle which says
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.
Why should we study the habits of successful people ?
As per book 7 habits, by Stephen R Covey, Every successful person on this planet, has one thing in common which are habits.
This means that success is predictable, success is a habit its not a destination.
Being successful is a habit, in whatever you do, in any phase of life. If your habits are proper, you can be successful in any part of your life;
OUR CHARACTER, BASICALLY, is a composite of our habits. “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny,” the maxim goes.
Habits are powerful factors in our lives. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character and produce our effectiveness … or ineffectiveness.
Habits, too, have tremendous gravity pull—more than most people realize or would admit.
Breaking deeply embedded habitual tendencies such as procrastination, impatience, criticalness, or selfishness that violate basic principles of human effectiveness involves more than a little willpower and a few minor changes in our lives.
“Lift off’ takes a tremendous effort, but once we break out of the gravity pull, our freedom takes on a whole new dimension.
It is a powerful force, and if we use it effectively, we can use the gravity pull of habit to create the cohesiveness and order necessary to establish effectiveness in our lives.
Which are the 7 habits of successful people ?
Habit 1. Being Proactive
Be Proactive is about taking responsibility for your life. You can’t keep blaming everything on your parents or grandparents. You need to recognize that you are responsible Stop blaming genetics, circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior.
Focus on your efforts. You need to focust your efforts & work on your health, children, problems at work.
Habit 2 : Begin with the end in mind
This is about define your goal and your mission and vision in life. Remember without the vision you are lost. If you are just walking the road without knowing the destination you are leading to an unknown destination.
So begin your journey with a destination with an end.
Remember to begin with an end
Habit 3 : Put First things First
Mind leads Body and its not the other way round. – Unknown.
We all have exactly 24 hours a day. What you achieve in life depends on what you do in these 24 hours.
In previous habit you defined your goal in life. Now you need to take action and start doing things that will take you to that destination.
Hence, Prioritize the things you need to do. Postpone all the unimportant tasks that do not take you to your destination.
Habit 4 : Think Win – Win
Think Win-Win isn’t about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based code for human interaction and collaboration.
Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing–that is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game.
Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one.
A person or organization that approaches conflicts with a win-win attitude possesses three vital character traits:
- Abundance Mentality
Win-win requires that you be both. It is a balancing act between courage and consideration. To go for win-win, you not only have to be emphatic, but you also have to be confident. You not only have to be considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave.
Always Remember , Think Win Win
Habit 5 : Seek first to Understand, Then to be Understood
If you’re like most people, you probably seek first to be understood; you want to get your point across. And in doing so, you may ignore the other person completely, pretend that you’re listening, selectively hear only certain parts of the conversation or attentively focus on only the words being said, but miss the meaning entirely.
You might be saying, “Hey, now wait a minute. I’m just trying to relate to the person by drawing on my own experiences. Is that so bad?” In some situations, autobiographical responses may be appropriate, such as when another person specifically asks for help from your point of view or when there is already a very high level of trust in the relationship.
Habit 6 : Synergize
To put it simply, synergy means “two heads are better than one.” Synergize is the habit of creative cooperation. It is teamwork, open-mindedness, and the adventure of finding new solutions to old problems.
When people begin to interact together genuinely, and they’re open to each other’s influence, they begin to gain new insight. The capability of inventing new approaches is increased exponentially because of differences.
Therefore, Valuing differences is what really drives synergy. Differences should be seen as strengths, not weaknesses. They add zest to life.
Habit 7 : SHARPEN THE SAW